Mini-Marriages = Checkmate
- Aqueryus Mind
- Jun 20
- 7 min read
If I knew then what I know now, I would have stayed single until I marry. I spent a significant part of my 20s wrapped up in an illusion of marriages that never were. Imagine a night out with friends; your senses are awakened by what smells like God Himself. You followed the scent and identify the source as a sexy, handsome man making his way to the bar. Your eyes connect multiple times across a crowded room during the night, until, finally he makes his move and you exchange numbers. Let’s call him Taurus. After a few dates, you start to spend every spare moment together. He is either at your place or you are at his. Over the next 8 months you two become inseparable. You meet all his friends and a few family members in neighboring cities. In your intimate moments together you both promise exclusivity and you commit yourself to this promise. You turn down any advances from others, since you are now in a ‘relationship’. Hoping with earnest that the relationship progresses to something more. You start to assume your role in his house; doing his laundry, cooking, planning parties/trips etc. Does this sound familiar? Many of us, engage in this dating ritual, some of us invest more than others. Yet we all have the same sense of entitlement, that our efforts would be rewarded with loyalty, love, and the envied title of 'WIFE'. This thought process is a ‘deception of the enemy’. Countering our efforts, because we surrender the power of the chase. Instinctively, natural law nominates woman as the ultimate prize. In this preemptive promise we lose mystery and intrigue, by pandering to his desires; seeking to make his life more comfortable rather than the other way around. But the most dangerous mistake we make, is we begin to consider him an extension of ourselves during what should be an assessment phase -- Its disarming. A subtle surrender that loses sight of the fact that while we become fully committed to him, he became more comfortable in his reality of options.
